Lesson 10 - Evangelism

How to talk to others about your new life in Christ


The goal of this lesson is to motivate the new believer to live part of their life with unbelievers, so that unbelievers have the opportunity to explore and witness a relationship with God.


You should be prepared to give an example of how you “live life” with unbelievers. How does that look, specifically and practically, in your life?
Be prepared to give your own list of unbelievers as suggested in the “skills” section.
Spend some time thinking about you own personal story as outlined in the “skills” section.
Also, be prepared to share any experiences you have had in leading “followers” or discipling others.


These questions will help the group face their need to talk and also their fear of talking about their new relationship with God.


Matthew 9:9-38 / Matthew 28:18-20 – This group of verses shows clearly that Jesus was about inviting people to live life with him and experience the reality and truth of God. This is basic to our understanding of how we should live with unbelievers as well.


Key Questions to Answer: It is a common misunderstanding among new believers that part of living life with God is NOT living life with unbelievers. It is true that we should not live LIKE the unbeliever lives. However, it is our calling to follow Jesus in the way he reached unbelievers – by spending time with them.

So, it would be helpful to confront this misunderstanding with your group and talk about the conflict that this causes in their minds.

Some of the new believer’s old friendships may have been built around habitual, sinful activity (such as drugs and alcohol) and may now need some time off and distance in order for the new believer to end those habitual tendencies. However the new believer will probably have other unbeliever friends who don’t have those habits and can be influenced by the new believer during this time. We never have an excuse to continually NOT live life with unbelievers.

Another issue in living life with unbelievers is how to respond to sin in their lives. Do we ignore their sin, confront them all the time, or what? It is important to realize that those who don’t have a relationship with God don’t have the Holy Spirit inside them like believers do. So, they will not be as sensitive to sin as a believer and we shouldn’t expect them to view sin like we do.

Likewise, we don’t see Jesus confronting the unbeliever’s sin as much as simply living and speaking about a new way of life with them. The difference in your life will be clear to see the more time you spend together. God will begin to create questions in their minds about your new life and also give you the right time and words to speak about Him.


There are three key parts to this “skills” section. The first is to think and pray about what unbelievers God wants you to spend time with. There is a place provided for everyone to start making a list. You should also have your list prepared as the leader and talk about the people on your list.

Then, there is the part about writing and telling your own story. One suggestion is to have each person tell one part of the outline at a time. Have everyone write first, and then tell the first part –“What I was like before I started a relationship with God”. Then, write and tell the second part, etc. It could take too long to do all the parts in one group meeting. So, some homework could be given to be completed before the next group session. Having each member share their stories with the group is also good, because the members of the group may have never heard the stories of all the other members.

The third skill is preparing to tell the gospel message. We have provided the “bridge” method in the appendix to this lesson, as a simple way to teach someone how to share the gospel. You should become acquainted with this tool and be prepared to teach your group how to use it with others.


Both guys in the videos speak powerfully about their heart for evangelism and how they live out evangelism in their lives. Vlado from Slovakia travels around the country at night talking about intentional conversations and initiating time with his friends as he speaks powerfully to them about Christ. Filip from Croatia talks about some of the important pieces of relational evangelism that have to happen. Just being a friend to someone or taking part in different activities that you can invite friends to is a big piece of setting the stage to speak about the message of Christ. Work on some questions for your group from these two videos.

Summary Verse

1 Peter 3:15, “But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.”


Through the Week Study: One of the key questions for the reading on day #6 is “Who is following you in your life now?” This is always a good question to answer. The people that God appoints to “follow” us or naturally want to spend time with us are often the people God wants us to influence and lead to Him. The group may need some help identifying or accepting someone in their lives as their “follower”. Potential followers are often younger than the leader. Likewise, potential followers can often be viewed as bothersome or even irritating, but, in fact, they are our God-appointed followers or disciples. So, our response needs to be a new acknowledgment and acceptance of them and of our role in their lives.

Filip | Croatia

Filip is from Cakovec, studies business and plays in a Ska band called October Light.


Vlado | Slovakia

Gave all of his money towards a trip to Tibet where he ate worms and slept outside.